I love studying human beings. It's just so astonishing to watch how our behavior is influenced by external factors. I see complete introverts morphing into extroverts, chatterboxes switching into silent mode, happy people going all sullen and sad, sad ones putting on a happy face, kids acting like grown-ups, grown-ups acting like kids....all based upon our surroundings and the company we keep. It's all good, as long as it is not pretense.By virtue of the prevailing situations, if you are naturally inclined and genuinely feel the need to divert from your general behavior and react in a different manner, it's acceptable. But if it gets to a level where you have to "pretend" to be what you are not, just so that you can "belong" to a certain group, just so that you can be "accepted" into a popular cult, it's not worth it. There is nothing in this world that is worth pretending for. If you are in a position where you are not comfortable in your own skin because you are busy pretending to live a life that is not truly your style, please do yourself a favor and step out of it RIGHT NOW !
While we are always taught to be part of a community,a group and to belong to an identifiable unit of a society, it is just not right to stick to stereotypes only because everyone else is doing it. While being a part of a group without standing apart, gives you a sense of belonging and of security, it is just not worth the sacrifice of individuality. It is OK to not be OK with certain people. It is OK if you cannot be a part of something everyone else is a part of. It is completely fine to stand apart and hold your own ground, if that is what seems right to you. There is no need to put up with other's eccentricities, only because you think it would be rude to react otherwise. Anyone with a strong sense of individuality is bound to make a few enemies along the way. But if you sacrifice your individuality for the sake of "fitting in", you will just end up making friends you do not need. Tongues will wag, words will flow, but nothing in this world should EVER put you in a position that YOU do not want to be in. Because there is no bigger shame than trying to not be yourself. Do not run away from who you are, just because the real you does not fit into a stereotypical definition. It is better to be abhorred for who you really are than to be loved for who you are not :)